Either you TRUST me…or you don’t!

August 28, 2007

Mood : sad and angry

I think it’s time for me to retire my hat that I have dawned the past 10 years, and doing in home child care, and find a job outside the home! I made a difficult decision in not watching the boys anymore. When you place your children with any child care provider, you have to trust them, until given reason to not be trusted. I have never ever put any child in danger. I never would! But dad seemed to have a hard time with the fact that I was uncomfortable with him calling my home 5 to 6 times a day, especially when mom calls me each day on her lunch to see how the day is going. That’s fine and dandy and I welcome that. But hang up the phone and ten minutes later dad calls? Heaven forbid that I be busy with your kids and not answer the phone, say for example when I am changing a diaper, if we are outside playing or taking a walk, or perhaps feeding them a meal, then assuming OMG something is wrong! He is very controlling with his wife and she puts up with it. That’s her choice but I don’t have to put up with the controlling behavior and the need to call my home and use a tone of voice with me and need reassurance is just beyond normal. So because I said, I think its best that you find someone else to watch your boys that you say to me “Why you gotta be like that” what the hell is that? The bottom is line either you trust me with your kids, or you don’t. Simple as that! So his wife takes the phone in his defense he is like that with me, his family, my family and well that’s fine if you all choose to tolerate that. I on the other hand do not. I don’t appreciate not being paid on time. I don’t appreciate having to track him down to get paid at the end of the week, nor do I think I have to travel to his place of employment to meet him to get paid. Err please do inform me of any day care that does that. Not to mention the lack of bring enough baby food for the baby and keep forgetting to bring it. Sure I went out and bought some, I mean I am not going to let the baby go hungry, what kind of person does that really? So yes each week when I got groceries I bought some. Plus they drink almost over two gallons of milk per week and they only brought me one. Baby had rash but no diaper cream so who went out and bought it? I realize money is tight all around and I made little allowances like that.

How about the fact he de-pants his son when he walks past him and his son decides to de-shorts my seventeen year old daughter? Yeah that’s amusing and funny NOT!!!

I am not like most day care places, where a child is just a number. A child is a flower that needs to be nurtured, and loved. I have always taken care of the kids I watch like they are my own. I am not just a sitter, I am the nanny. I have had the girls since they were both three months old and the oldest is 5 now. I made a commit to the family…. I never call off sick, I arrange my schedule and doctor appointments accordingly, and most times the specialist do not do Saturdays so I don’t go. I never EVER had any parent have to miss work, ask the girls mom. Even when my dad was in the hospitals my daughter was here!

So the mom then proceeds to tell me how hurt she is, and her mother is?? WTF her mother? OH please. Spare me. So what because I feel that he does not trust me and I am no longer comfortable under the circumstances to baby-sit for you I hurt her mother’s feelings? OMG, when my son asks to see you I have to say you will never see her again, yeah ok, tell you what… you tell your son your daddy has trust issues and is insecure and paranoid and feels the need to stalk the sitter every waking moment and she didn’t feel comfortable with the situation any longer and did what she felt she needed to do.

Never EVER in all the years I have been doing this have I ever had a father call me 6 times a day so how is your day, what are you doing? What are you doing for dinner? Did you watch Wife Swap last night?? What does that all have to do with How’s my kids today? So they say is just a caring father unlike other fathers. So what are you saying that because the girls dad does not call me umpteen times a day, that makes him a bad father? Does it make their mom a bad mom because she doesn’t call me when the girls are here to check on things all the time? No, they know if there is a problem I will call them. They TRUST me! And that is what it boiled down to…. Either you TRUST me or you don’t!

Posted by Suzie Q | Filed Under Lifesavers